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Well, How Are You?

Continuing our exploration of using interpersonal challenges as fuel for our flames and brightness, let’s talk a little more about how to alchemize interactions with challenging people people we perceive to be challenging. This little passage from Tony Schwartz and Jim Loehr’s gr...

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Learning from the Good and the Bad

A few +1s ago, we posed the question: “How is this making me stronger?” Specifically: How is this challenge I’m facing Today making me stronger? (Well, how is it?!) In the context of interpersonal challenges, there are a lot of tools we can use. Some of my favorites include ...

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Part 2 (Featuring Lincoln + Franklin + You)

In our last +1, we hung out with Dale Carnegie who echoed the wisdom of Jesus and the Jesuit priest Anthony de Mello. As you may recall, we learned that the fastest way to kick over the beehive in our relationships is to criticize someone. 🐝 Let’s spend another moment on the same th...

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Rule #1 (STOP Criticizing!)

In our last couple +1s, we had fun taking beams out of our own eyes (rather than worrying about the motes of dust in others’ eyes) while writing prescriptions for ourselves (rather than for our neighbors). Today I’d like to continue that theme with some wisdom from one of the all-time bests...

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← Is Crazy. YOU Need It!

In our last +1, Jesus joined the party and helped us take the BEAM out of our own eye rather than point out the sawdust in everyone else’s eyes. Let’s talk about that some more. Anthony de Mello comes to mind. He was an Indian Jesuit priest and psychotherapist. Incredibly insp...

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Ignore One, Focus on the Other

In our last +1, we talked about lint on the projector’s lens and the fact that, as per Byron Katie, “every perceived problem appearing ‘out there’ is really nothing more than a misperception within your own thinking.” As I imagined us all busting out a nice little cloth to cl...

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Got Any on Yours?

In our last couple +1s, we’ve been exploring the fact that everything is “empty” of meaning. One more time: We bring our own consciousness to E V E R Y T H I N G and that influences what we see. Pretty much all the great spiritual teachers talk about this. Today we’re go...

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One More Time: It’s ALL Empty! (Fill It Up Wisely)

In our last couple +1s we’ve been talking about feet. We started off with a little biomechanical goodness on the virtues of going barefoot on occasion and then moved into a discussion on the inherent “emptiness” of meaning after I got two EXACTLY opposite responses to precisely t...

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Ink Blobs and Emptiness on the Trail

In our last +1, we hung out with my feet. (Left foot. Left foot. Left foot. Right! … Feet in the morning. Feet at night! 🤓) As you may recall, I shared a story about a nice lady who, after seeing me carrying my shoes on some uneven terrain at the end of my Trail workout, said:

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Just the Way You Are

After watching that Mister Rogers documentary I keep talking about (this one), we got a bunch of his books. One of them is a recently published, beautifully illustrated collection of his poetry-so...

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You Will Always Lose It (Here’s Why)

We’re kinda on a roll with the whole envy-squishing theme, so why not one more? In our last +1, we talked about the fact that if we’re going to compare ourselves to others (please don’t! lol) we might as well do it right—recognizing the fact that EVERYONE experiences ups and downs en ro...

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One More Antidote to Soul Ulcer (aka Envy)

In our last couple +1s, we talked about the toxicity of envy (soul ulcers! 😲) and a potential antitode (celebratory mudita love! 😘). Today I want to revisit Paul Jarvis’s brain (and book!) for one more take on how to deal with envy. He has a great passage about t...

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And You Cannot Hope Too Much or Dare Too Much

A few +1s ago we talked about being the change YOU want to see in the world. As we discussed, we can’t try to be what others think we should be. We need to be who we KNOW we should be. When I think of that, I think of this passage from Ralph Waldo Emerson’s

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Wonder Where Your Power Comes From? ACTION!!

In our last couple +1s, we’ve been talking about Agency. I promised we’d get into how The Power of Agency guys tell us we can build our agency. ...

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And Secret Agent DoubleO-You

In our last little flurry of +1s, we had some fun with Mel Robbins’s 5 Second Rule. Have you tried it out yet? 5… 4… 3… 2… 1… – GO!!! That might be THE most elegantly efficient Tool we’ve discussed to help close the gap between who we’re CAPABLE of being and ...

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