The Way of the Superior Man

A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenge of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire by David Deida
by David Deida | 202 pages

Deida definitely pushes some edges with his work and this book was hugely transformational for me. Guys: you'll dig it. Ladies: your guys will dig it. In the Note, we'll explore some Big Ideas on the importance of living on purpose, not making excuses, giving our gifts to the world, being willing to change and committing to growth and love. Powerful stuff.

“This book is a guide for a specific kind of newly evolving man. This man is unabashedly masculine—he is purposeful, confident, and directed, living his chosen way of life with deep integrity and humor—and he is sensitive, spontaneous, and spiritually alive, with a heart-commitment to discovering and living his deepest truth.”

~ David Deida from The Way of the Superior Man

This is a powerful book. If you’re conservative, it’s going to push your edges and might be too much for you. However, if you’re a man who’s committed to living his life at his edge, understanding the ideas of masculine and feminine energy and how they play out in intimate sexual relationships, then this book is pretty much a must-read.

In my experience, you may not always agree with everything Deida says, but you can be assured your perspective will expand—getting you one step closer to living your own highest truth. Deida talks about both the psychology and the technique in the book. I’m going to focus on the psychology. If you dig it, get the book because there’s a lot in there that I think you’ll find empowering. (And, consider getting another great book called Finding God Through Sex with even more practices and techniques you might enjoy.)

As with all my favorites, the challenge with this one is what not to include. So, leaving a lot of the dozens of Big Ideas from the book on the cutting floor, I offer you my Notes on The Way of the Superior Man.

We’ll start with the cornerstone of the Way of the Superior Man: His Mission.

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About the author


David Deida

One of the most insightful and provocative spiritual teachers of our time