#1168 The Shattered Vase

Tape + Glue vs. Mosaic

In our last +1, we took a quick look at the science of posttraumatic growth.

Today I want to spend another moment on the subject and talk about one of the metaphors Stephen Joseph uses to bring his wisdom home in What Doesn’t Kill Us: The New Psychology of Posttraumatic Growth.

Stephen tells us: “At the core of this book is the theory of the shattered vase. Imagine that a treasured vase sits in a place of prominence in your house. One day, you accidentally knock it off its perch. It smashes. Sometimes when vases shatter, there is enough left intact to provide a base from which to start the process of reconstruction. In this case, however, only shards remain.

What do you do? Do you try to put the vase back together as it was, using glue and sticky tape? Do you collect the shards and drop them in the garbage, as the vase is a total loss? Or do you pick up the beautiful colored pieces and use them to make something new—such as a colorful mosaic?

When adversity strikes, people often feel that at least some part of them—their views of the world, their sense of themselves, their relationships—have been smashed. Those who try to put their lives back together exactly as they were remain fractured and vulnerable. But those who accept the breakage and build themselves anew become more resilient and open to new ways of living. The guiding principle that underscores this book is the belief, drawn from years of research and clinical practice, that focusing on, and understanding, and deliberately taking control of what we do in our thoughts and actions can enable us to move forward in life following adversity.”

So…

You have a beautiful, precious vase.

Imagine it breaking.

It’s in so many pieces that it can’t be restored to its original state. 😕

What do you do?

Stephen tells us that we can either try to tape it up and glue it back together (and remain forever fragile in the process) or we can recognize that we can never go back to where it was but… we CAN choose to use those beautiful pieces to make something new.

We can take those broken pieces of the vase and create a new mosaic—using the trauma as an engine to creating a new us.

(👆 How’s THAT for a new take on being ANTIfragile?)

That’s Today’s +1.

Has life picked up your precious vase and shattered it ever/lately?

(OF COURSE IT HAS. YOU’RE HUMAN.)

Let’s pick up the pieces.

And make something even more beautiful.

TODAY.

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