#426 Bouncers and Lawyers in Your Head

Pay Them Well to Keep the Optimizing Party Going

Alan Cohen has a couple great ways to help us get our minds right. He tells us to imagine having bouncers in our heads. And lawyers.

He puts it so brilliantly, we’re going to let him take over Today’s +1.

First, the attorneys.

“Imagine two lawyers in a courtroom inside your head. One is arguing for your possibilities and you achieving your goals. The other is arguing for your limits and why you don’t deserve what you want. Who will win? The lawyer whom you pay the most. The way you pay these lawyers, however, is not with money; it is with your attention.”

Aha. That’s smart.

(Quick q: Which attorney are you paying the most?)

Now for the bouncers.

“Your real enemies are the self-defeating thoughts, paltry expectations, and beliefs that you must live at less than full throttle. You will experience as much pain as you are willing to accept. You do have control over how much you hurt. Pain happens; suffering is optional. You can choose thoughts that bring you relief rather than imprisonment. To find your freedom, stand at the doorway of your mind and monitor your thoughts. Notice which ones lift you and which ones drag you down. Then, like a bouncer at an exclusive party, admit only those on the invitation list and send the others back where they came from. Fate is not a net cast over you by capricious fortune; it is a garden you cultivate by the thoughts you attend to. Shift your attention and you will shift your life.”

Again. Love it.

(Another quick q: How’s your bouncer with that red-velvet rope doing?)

All of which leads us to Today’s +1.

If your mind starts generating a little storm of negative thoughts today, see if you can step back and put your bouncer and/or your attorney to work.

Repeat. As often as necessary.

And, I say, let’s make today an awesome day!

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