You know those times when you need to initiate a tough conversation and you’re kinda sorta dreading it and avoiding it?
One of my old mentors once told me that you just need to move through what he called “sweaty five-minute conversations” to get to the other side of clarity and resolution.
Most of us avoid the challenging conversations because we aren’t willing to endure those few minutes of discomfort. I definitely used to avoid them. Now, I remember that Speed Is a Force then I WOOP it, chant “Bring it on!” + “I’m excited!” and jump in.
It’s become a really powerful practice for me as I’ve mastered it over the years.
But here’s the funny thing. Once upon a time, I needed to have one of those “sweaty conversations” with that mentor of mine.
Guess how it turned out?
It was, by far, LITERALLY, the worst conversation I’ve ever had in my life. HAH. Seriously.
I kid you not.
As Campbell said, when you dare to go after bliss, there’s always the chance for a fiasco. :)
Here’s how Campbell puts it: “The hero journey is one of the universal patterns through which that radiance shows brightly. What I think is that a good life is one hero journey after another. Over and over again, you are called to the realm of adventure, you are called to new horizons. Each time, there is the same problem: do I dare? And then if you do dare, the dangers are there, and the help also, and the fulfillment or the fiasco. There’s always the possibility of a fiasco.
But there’s also the possibility of bliss.”
So, today’s mission, should you choose to accept it: The next time you find yourself avoiding a challenging conversation, see if you can recognize the fear and then get to work on it with one (or more) of our growing array of tools.
Perhaps you can remember that your infinite potential exists on the other side of that fear and chant “Bring it on!!” to yourself.
Maybe you can practice Active Love on the person who’s currently stressing you out.
I’d definitely recommend you WOOP it! Wave the wand. Create your Wish. See it going perfectly. Experience the benefits. Then anticipate the obstacles and make your plan to deal with them.
Then, if you feel that now’s the time, jump in and move through those few seconds/minutes of sweaty palms and make it happen.
You’ll win or you’ll learn. :)
P.S. I know for a fact that if I had that challenging conversation of a decade ago today it would have ended so much better. But I never would have gotten to where I am without the pain of that fiasco. And so it is. 😃
Optimize every facet of your life.
Actualize your potential.
How will the program help you optimize your life each month?Learn More!
Get more wisdom in less time
You’re busy. I get that. That’s why I’m all about super (!) practical, smart, fun, inspiring and empowering wisdom you can apply to your life RIGHT NOW — consistently moving from theory to practice.
Upgrade every area of your life
Get PhilosophersNotes + Optimal Living 101 Master Classes on everything from building great habits and conquering procrastination to discovering (and living!) your purpose.
Join a world-class community
Join 10,000+ other awesome humans who are optimizing their lives—including Best-selling authors, Olympic coaches and Fortune 100 executives.
The most transformational Big Ideas from 450+ of the greatest personal growth books at your fingertips (and eyes and ears). Beautiful to look at and powerful to use, these mini-CliffsNotes™ of personal growth will inspire and empower you to live your deepest truths.
450+ Stunning PDF's
450+ books condensed into 450+ 6-page PDFs for more wisdom in less time.
450+ MP3 Audio Guides
Every PDF is recorded as a 20-minute MP3 for on-the-go learning.
Brian shares his favorite Big Ideas in 10 minute episodes on PN TV.
Apply these ideas diligently, patiently, persistently, and playfully and happy dances are guaranteed.
So Easy to Use
The coolest online membership site and support giving you all need and more for personal success.
3,500 Big Ideas
3,500 of the Biggest Ideas outlined and explained for easy and powerful implementation.
“PhilosophersNotes is an idea whose time has come. Starting from some of the world’s most important books, Brian’s masterful syntheses combine deep insights, humor, and practical applications in a manner ideally suited for our busy lives. I’m hooked!”
Optimal Living 101 Master Classes
All the great teachers come back to the same basic principles again and again.
Brian distills the best Big Ideas into fun, practical classes to help you optimize.
(Think: Purpose 101 + Confidence 101 + Willpower 101 + Optimal Sleep 101 + …)
To help you go from theory to practice and embody these ideas.
Beautiful visuals to complement the top 10 Big Ideas from each class.
Every Master Class is recorded as a full length MP3 for on-the-go learning.
Each class has a guided meditation to help you integrate the ideas.
To get your subconscious mind involved and rock it.
Super practical worksheets to go from idea to action.
“Being obsessed with both individual and team performance, your podcast resonated. The Notes, et al, are brilliant. I am a crazy reader, so getting into your Notes is like a trip to the sporting goods store when I was a kid.”
Plus, each month you will get:
Every day, you'll get a new +1 (Video + Meditation + Worksheet + MP3) delivered via email + app. What would your life look like if you Optimized just a little more today?
Once a week, you’ll get 2 new Notes (6-page PDF + 20-min MP3) featuring the best Big Ideas from the best optimal living books. More wisdom in less time!
Monthly Optimal Living 101 Master Classes
Once a month, you’ll get 1 new Optimal
Living 101 Master Class
(1-hour video + MP3 + Workbook + Meditations) featuring the best Big Ideas to help you optimize every aspect of your life.
Build on the Free Stuff
- Optimize +1's
- PhilosophersNotes (TV only)
- Optimal Living Master Classes
- Optimize +1's
- PhilosophersNotes (PDFs + MP3s + TVs)
- Optimal Living Master Classes
Small Commitment: $10 per month
The program is only 10 bucks per month. (Cancel anytime!) We've priced it low so money doesn't get in the way of you getting your wisdom on and optimizing your life.SIGN UP Now!
Check out what our Members have to say.
You've helped me optimize my life in many ways! Through these classes/notes I have improved my mental, emotional, and physical health as well as my relationships, finances, and creativity! This is the best investment on myself every month - period.
My mood, energy, attitude - you name it - has improved, the "domino/compound effect" has definitely happened here and I can't wait to see what's next.
When Oprah had her show on TV, my sister used to say that I went to school everyday with Oprah. Now, I think of myself going to school everyday with Brian!
I spend $19/month on my gym membership to take care of my body. A mere $10/month on an Optimal Living membership is THE biggest value and BEST INVESTMENT I have ever made in my emotional, mental and spiritual health.
My life has taken a turn for the busy recently, but I commit to at least one philosophers note a day. I especially like to download the mp3 and listen while exercising or driving. When I listen to it, my mind gets ‘right’. I get back in touch with what matters most to me: my soul, my spirituality. And from this, my day, my life, my energy is aligned and I can live in flow. Thank you for all you do!
Imagine a site that contained stacks and stacks of great books. Now imagine someone summarized and explain the contents in a fraction of the time it takes to read them. Stop imagining. It's here. Take advantage of Brian's passion. Thank you.
Small Commitment: $10 per month
The program is only 10 bucks per month. (Cancel anytime!) We've priced it low so money doesn't get in the way of you getting your wisdom on and optimizing your life.
(Stay as long as you like. Cancel anytime.)