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Antifragile 101

How to Use Everything to Fuel Your Heroic Growth

You can be fragile, robust or antifragile. Do you break when you get hit by life? Or are you kinda resilient? Or… Are you antifragile—do you actually get STRONGER the more life kicks you around?! Learn how to get comfortable being uncomfortable as you step into your infinite potential and use *everything* to fuel your heroic growth.

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Confidence 101

How to Create Indestructible Trust in Yourself

Confidence. The word comes from the Latin con + fidere and means “with intense trust.” To have intense trust in what? In YOURSELF. *That* is true confidence–having total trust in yourself knowing you can handle whatever life throws at you. Helping you create that kind of indestructible trust in yourself is what this class is all about.

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Can’t Hurt Me

Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds

David Goggins is a former Navy SEAL (and Army Ranger) who used to hold a Guinness World Record for completing 4,030 pull-ups in 17 hours. These days he’s setting records as an ultra-endurance athlete. But he wasn’t always Mr. Superhero. In this great autobiographical self-help book, David walks us through his transformation from being a 297-pound exterminator to a “Who IS this guy?!” superhero. If you’re into SUPER (!!!) intense demonstrations of how to conquer ourselves to do the seemingly impossible (and don’t mind a stream of f-bombs—lol) then I think you’ll love this book as much as I did. Big Ideas we explore include: The Accountability Mirror, bringing your best (when you feel the worst), hero callouses (let failures toughen you up!), the process (how to go from running 1/4 of a mile to 200+ nonstop), and bursting from the inside out (learn to endure!).

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Extreme Ownership

How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win

Jocko Willink and Leif Babin were two of the most senior (and decorated) SEALS on the ground in the most intense battles of Iraq. In this book they share their leadership lessons on how U.S. Navy SEALs lead and win. It’s an intense, impactful read. Big Ideas we explore include a definition of Extreme Ownership, the fact that there are no bad teams, only bad leaders, how to prioritize and execute and remembering that discipline = freedom.

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The Upside of Stress

Why Stress Is Good for You, and How to Get Good at It

If you’ve ever had stress in your life (hah!) and wondered how to deal with it more optimally, I think you’ll love this. McGonigal tells us that how we THINK about stress plays a huge role in its affect on us and walks us thru the science behind it. Rather than try to get rid of stress (good luck with that!), we’re much better off shifting our mindsets to embrace and use the stress wisely!

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Loving What Is

Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

Byron Katie is best known for the four questions that make up "The Work" and in this Note we’ll take a quick look at those along with some other really cool Ideas. We'll learn to love what is by seeing our suffering as a compassionate alarm clock awakening us to our possibilities and by recognizing that if we see things as "wrong" in the world, we need to start by changing our own consciousness.

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The Obstacle Is the Way

The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph

Ryan Holiday is brilliant. So is this book. The ancient Stoics taught us how to not only accept challenges but to thrive on them. Ryan brings their wisdom to life with compelling stories of great peeps who have rocked it in the face of adversity. In the Note we'll take a quick look at the three keys to making obstacles work for us: Perception + Action + Will.

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The Spartan Way

Eat Better. Train Better. Think Better. Be Better.

Joe De Sena created Spartan Race. He's one of my favorite people on the planet. His mission? To "yank 100 million people off their couches to start living instead of being passive observers of life.” Angela Duckworth calls him a "paragon of grit" and, as you know if you've been following along, I'm ALL IN on Spartan Races as an epically awesome way to use obstacles to make ourselves stronger. We featured his first two books Spartan Up! and Spartan Fit! In this one, Joe walks us through the ten Spartan Core Virtues—from Self-Awareness and Commitment to Grit and Integrity. If you’re into embodying the classic virtues of ancient Greece as much as I am, I think you’ll dig the book as much as I did. Big Ideas we explore: A quick look at our Top 10 Spartan Virtues, how to find your True North, commitment (do you know what it *truly* is?), marshmallows (and our six-year-old sons), and what you'll know at the finish line (get there!!).

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The Undefeated Mind

On the Science of Constructing an Indestructible Self

How'd you like to have an undefeated mind while constructing an indestructible self? (I'll take 'em!) Alex Lickerman, MD shows us how--blending Western science with practical Eastern mysticism in this powerful book. In the Note, we'll explore how to find your mission and turn poison into medicine.

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Unbeatable Mind

Forge Resiliency and Mental Toughness to Succeed at an Elite Level

I'm convinced Mark Divine is a superhero. Seriously. And in Unbeatable Mind, the former Navy SEAL gives us the handbook on mental toughness. In the Note, we'll look at the keys to cultivating our confidence, the importance of cultivating our concentration, learning how to control our breathing and other goodness that will make you unbeatable.

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What Doesn't Kill Us

The New Psychology of Posttraumatic Growth

Stephen Joseph is one of the world’s leading researchers on the science of posttraumatic growth. He is also a professor and therapist. He started his career studying posttraumatic stress. In the process, he saw that many people experienced significant growth as a result of the stress they endured--at which point, he started developing his ideas on posttraumatic growth. Fast-forward a few decades and here we are. the title is a play on Nietzsche’s famous dictum: “What doesn’t kill me makes me stronger.” While the sub-title perfectly captures the focus of the book: “The New Psychology of Posttraumatic Growth.” Big Ideas we explore include: Eudaimonic Treadmills (note: there aren't any!), posttraumatic growth (and how to use stress as the engine for growth), the shattered vase (taking the pieces and making an antifragile mosaic), harvesting hope (the 1 + 2 + 3s for trauma survivors).

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Win or Learn

Gregor and Me: A Trainer's Journey

John Kavanagh is one of the best MMA coaches in the world. He runs Straight Blast Gym Ireland and has been coaching the superstar Conor McGregor—one of the best MMA fighters in history—since the day he got into MMA and arrived in his gym. John was also Ireland’s first MMA fighter and its first Brazilian jiu-jitsu black belt. Plus, he’s a down-to-earth, humble guy. This is his inspiring story about his journey to the top and it reads like a case study in the growth mindset and grit. Big Ideas we cover include the fact that “Win or Learn” is literally THE PERFECT mantra for the growth mindset, Conor's path from welfare to $100m, the goldfish-bowl effect (need to hop out of your bowl?), standing up and falling down (and then getting back up!), loving what we do as the secret sauce to awesome (science says!!) and remembering that there's no easy route to any destination worth getting to.

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From Good to Great to Unstoppable

Tim Grover was Michael Jordan’s trainer and, basically, his mental toughness coach. Kobe Bryant’s as well. And Dwayne Wade’s. And... Well, a ton of other elite athletes. He’s one of the world’s top mental toughness coaches and this book is, as per the sub-title, a manual on how to go “From Good to Great to Unstoppable.” Big Ideas we explore include: relentless commitment (vs. "Meh, good enough"), Do. The. Work (eat frogs and dominate), Pressure (pressure, pressure! BRING IT ON!), the source of true confidence, greatness math (remember: effort counts twice; just ask Michael Jordan and Jerry Rice), and turning your dreams into reality (ready?).

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#10 Antifragile

vs. Resilient vs. Fragile
In his great book Antifragile, Nassim Taleb walks us through the fact that there’s a big difference between being fragile, being
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#29 The Stockdale Paradox

I’m Confident It’ll Happen AND… I Know It Will be Challenging
Vice Admiral James Stockdale was shot down during the Vietnam War. He spent seven and a half years in a brutal prison camp. He spent four of
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#41 OMMS

The Hero’s Mantra
Ultimately, what we want to get *really* (!!!) good at is alchemizing any and all challenges into fuel for the bonfire that is our

#61 The Obstacle Is the Way

Plus: The Paradox of Fire
Marcus Aurelius once wrote to himself in the journal he never intended to publish that we now know as Meditations that “The impediment to

#96 Win or Learn

Three Questions to Ask after a Disappointing Performance
Lanny Bassham won a gold medal in rifle shooting in the 1976 Olympics. But he didn’t win that gold until AFTER he kinda fell apart in the
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#97 Turning Around Glitches

What True Confidence Looks Like and How to Build It
True confidence doesn’t come from thinking everything will always go perfectly. That’s crazy. In fact, as Phil Stutz pointed out in one
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#106 Reverse Indicators

How to Interpret Your Encounters with Dragons
So, let’s say you’ve decided to embark on a heroic quest. It’s time for you to leave the normal, routine life and really go for
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#108 Hērōic Reframing

How to Build Antifragile, Heroic Confidence
Continuing our heroic theme, let’s talk a little more about how to build antifragile, heroic confidence. Here’s a question we want to
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#111 Self-Efficacy

The Science of Confidence
Albert Bandura is one of the most respected psychologists in the world. He studies the science of self-efficacy. Also known as: The science
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#142 How to Eat Stress Like an Energy Bar

Reappraisal + Paradoxical Stress Swap
Are you chronically stressed? Of course, the good life is not one in which we never experience high levels of stress and/or try to eliminate
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#191 Infinite Optionality

The Ticket to Antifragility
Let’s talk some more about how to become Antifragile. We’ve already talked about it on a high level. Super quick recap: If you’re
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#192 Death Cookies

Fuel for the Journey to Your Infinite Potential
Continuing our theme of how to become Antifragile Heroes, let’s look at another way to rock it. A couple +1s ago we talked about

#258 You vs. Your Problems

Size Yourself Up then Step Up!
In our last +1, we talked about the fact that the law does not concern itself with trifles and we busted out some old-school Latin and

#297 Percussus Resurgo

“Struck Down, I Rise Again!” (And Again.)
In our last +1, we had fun with a new Latin phrase introduced to us by Harvey Dorfman: Carpe momentum. Seize the moment! How? By executing

#325 The Psychology of Hope

Goals + Willpower + Waypower
Rick Snyder was the founder of research into the science of hope. And, he was one of the pioneers of the positive psychology movement. In
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#336 Threat vs. Challenge

How to You Respond to Life’s Stressors? (It Matters!)
In our last +1, we met our telomeres and learned how important they are in protecting our chromosomes so they can do their job and keep us
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#405 The Dreaded “U-Lag" on Your Heroic Quest

And How to Conquer It
Returning to our Hero’s journey theme, imagine yourself at the start of an epic journey. You’re looking out across a canyon. You can see
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#407 Styrofoam Weights

And Your Optimize Gym™ Membership
As we’ve discussed, years ago I did 1-on-1 coaching with one of my favorite authors, Steve Chandler. It was awesome. One day, Steve and I
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#409 It Is What It Is

The Power of Loving What Is
Byron Katie wrote a great book called Loving What Is. We talked about her before in the context of making sure you stay in YOUR business
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#424 Antifragile Buoyancy

How’s Your Barbell?

A couple +1s ago, we talked about the power of buoyancy and the optimal ratio of positive to negative. Recall that, as per Barbara Frerickson...

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#496 An Indestructible Mind

The Creation Of
In our last +1, we talked about inviting the Conquering Hero to your mind-wandering party and escorting out the Suffering (Whiney) Martyr.
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#612 Obstacle Immunity

How’s Yours?
The other day we received a beautiful note from an Optimizer (thank you, Jessica!) letting us know how much she appreciated our work. Like
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#622 The Growth Mindset

Jordan, Picasso and You
In our last +1, we talked about how to be like Mike sans the sugar-laden Gatorade. 🤓 I briefly mentioned the fact that Jordan was
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#661 Navy SEAL Cookie Jars

David Goggins on Becoming Superman
In our last couple +1, we talked about flipping the switch and going from our version of Clark Kent to our version of Superman. How? Stand

#796 Antifragile Confidence

← = Agency Squared
In our last +1, we (that would be me, the Secret Agent DoubleO-You and our daimons) spent some time hanging out chatting about the power of
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#797 Agency = Doing

Wonder Where Your Power Comes From? ACTION!!
In our last couple +1s, we’ve been talking about Agency. I promised we’d get into how The Power of Agency guys tell us we can build our
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#898 Antifragile Fuel

Aurelius on How to Make Flame and Brightness
Have you ever had an experience that annoyed you? (Hah.) Or, perhaps, a particular person who seems particularly skilled at annoying you?
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#899 How Is This Making Me Stronger?

Well, How Is It? Add Fuel to the Fire!
In our last +1, we talked about making flame and brightness out of everything thrown into our blazing fire. (Thank you Ryan Holiday for the
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#900 Swallowing Demons

And Getting Their Power
In our last couple +1s, we had some fun using our challenges as fuel for our growth. Blazing fire making brightness and flame out of
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#901 Whatever Your Fate Is

Say, “This Is What I Need!”
In our last +1, we hung out with Joseph Campbell as he channeled some Friedrich Nietzsche wisdom. As you may recall, Campbell told us about
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#902 Tolle Says: Whatever Happens

Accept It and Act Like You Chose It
In our last couple +1s, we’ve had some fun hanging out with Nietzsche and Joseph Campbell, loving up our fates and all of life’s
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#980 The Master Fails More Times

Than the Beginner Even Tries
​​A few +1s ago, we had fun chatting about the starting and finish lines of my first business, eteamz. ​​ ​​I mentioned that it
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#1002 The Stoic Paradox

The Stockdale Paradox - Part 2
Over the last couple of weeks, I’ve been having fun hanging out with some Stoics—some modern guys and some ancient ones. It started with
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#1108 The 1, 2, 3 of Antifragility

How to Operationalize OMMS
This morning I was out on the Trail enjoying (yet!) another stunningly beautiful Ojai morning. I was thinking about our Mastery Series
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#1130 Alchemizing Adversity

Into Exceptional Opportunities for Growth
In our last +1, we all get issued our magic wand. It can alchemize any and all challenges into fuel for our growth. Thank you, Hermes and
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#1137 A New Take on Mis-takes

Using Them as Fuel for Our Antifragile Fires
In our last +1, we spent some time with an Academy Award-nominated documentarian who reminded us that we need to be willing to fail.
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#1154 Operationalizing Antifragile Confidence

If… Then… Repeat. BOOM!
In our last +1, we spent some more time with our beloved Roman Stoic Seneca. As you may recall, first he told us that “Disaster is
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#1167 What Doesn’t Kill Us

The New Psychology of Posttraumatic Growth
In our last couple +1s, we talked about the fact that there are no eudaimonic treadmills and that a eudaimonic orientation is correlated
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#1168 The Shattered Vase

Tape + Glue vs. Mosaic
In our last +1, we took a quick look at the science of posttraumatic growth. Today I want to spend another moment on the subject and talk
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#1217 Bliss, Pain & Unicorns on Everest

Pearl Bites Part II
In our last +1, we talked about my chigger-triggers (hah and yeehah! 🤠) and how to alchemize life’s inevitable “inconveniences”