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John M. Gottman

John Gottman

Renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction.

World renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, John Gottman has conducted 40 years of breakthrough research with thousands of couples.

Dr. Gottman was one of the Top 10 Most Influential Therapists of the past quarter-century by the Psychotherapy Networker. He is the author or co-author of over 200 published academic articles and more than 40 books, including the bestselling The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work; What Makes Love Last; The Relationship Cure; Why Marriages Succeed or Fail; and Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child, among many others.

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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert

by John M. Gottman, Nan Silver

Want to make your relationship work? Then you’d be wise to turn toward the world’s leading researcher on the science of what makes love work: John Gottman. This book has sold over 1 million copies and it’s easy to see why. Big Ideas we explore: How Gottman can predict divorce with 91% accuracy (in < 15 minutes), a quick look at the 7 principles, the power of cherishing your partner, turning toward (and not being a tech rat), how to solve the solvable problems and starting “I love you” with the “I.”

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Connection & Fatherhood & Love

Love Modern Classic Spirit Top 101

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Falling in Love vs. STANDING in Love
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One’s a Lot Easier than the Other

It’s pretty easy to FALL in love. It’s considerably harder to STAND in love. And, simply seeing that distinction is a pretty big deal. Otherwise you might fall into the trap I used to fall into—thinking that any little hiccup in a relationship was a sign that something was wrong with the relationsh...

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Relationship Bid Math
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How's Yours?

In our last +1, we talked about being Efficient vs. Effective. Efficiency? It’s GREAT for managing our time and completing tasks. Not so great for creating EFFECTIVE relationships with people. We also hammered our “technology is the obstacle to presence!” theme one more time. 🤓 (I promise to kee...

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Bid Math Part 2
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Addition by Subtraction

In our last +1, we hung out with Jon Gottman and learned that successful marriages feature partners responding to one another’s bids. (Did you do your quick, napkin Relationship Bid Math?) I also promised that I’d keep coming back to technology as the major obstacle to being effective in our ...

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Kid Bid Algorithms
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In our last couple +1s, we’ve been talking about Jon Gottman and his wisdom on how to make a marriage work. We’ve been focused on one aspect of the third of his seven principles: Turning toward our partners by responding to their bids. Of course, responding to bids doesn’t just apply to...

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